Archive for August 1st, 2011

August 1, 2011

You Are In Charge

by bye2mrwrong

Lesson #20: When It Comes to Going after What You Love in Life, Don’t Take NO for an Answer

Lesson #21: Burn the Candles, Use the Nice Sheets, Wear the Fancy Lingerie. Don’t Save Anything for a Special Occasion. Today is Special Enough

Lesson #25: No One Else is in Charge of Your Happiness. You are the CEO of Your Joy

In three lessons Regina Brett, the author of this amazing book, has taught me that I am the master of my own happiness. It is up to me and me alone to make ME happy. It is my responsibility to create the life I desire, to pursue my dreams, to be happy.

Often we try to alter our internal state of unhappiness by looking toward the outside world for positive triggers to make us happy. But it’s not up to anyone else to make you happy.  Not your mother, your father, your spouse, your partner, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your kids, your boss, your colleagues, your friends, your horoscope. It’s up to you and you alone.

One “NO” should not cause our dreams to shatter, our hearts to break, or our hopes to crush. We should never surrender our dreams to someone else’s no. There are many bumps in the road but they should not stop us. And they should not control our happiness. So yes I may sometimes go back into feeling stuck, or look to the future and feel fear, I may be sad and gloomy about the present. But it is my choice to either wallow in self-pity or simply stop and ask myself what will make me happy now. Happy or miserable; it takes the same amount of time.

So should I wait for something or someone to make me happy?  Or would I be wiser to make my own happiness now? I think we all know the answer to that one. Don’t wait to do something special later, in a future that may never come. Life is short. The only time that matters is NOW.

August 1, 2011

Lesson # 18: A Writer is Someone Who Writes. If You Want to Be a Writer, Write!

by bye2mrwrong

Ahh this one is for all us bloggers out there, all of us inspiring writers whose heart’s greatest desire is to engrave our thoughts, our words, our story, our lives onto pages upon pages; secretly hoping that maybe just maybe those pages will transform into books.

Like many of the other lessons of this book, they somehow go hand in hand; and this one goes together with lesson #2. If you want to write you have to start somewhere.

Don’t procrastinate, don’t overanalyze. Take a seat in front of the computer and start typing. Rid your bones of those thoughts and memories. Quiet those voices in your head. Lose yourself in the magic of your enchanted little world. Let your thoughts flow out word by word, paragraph by paragraph, page by page.