Today’s Dating Jungle

by bye2mrwrong

When did the rules of the game change? I must have been sleeping. But dating sure isn’t what it used to be 10 years ago.

I remember a time when we girls used to get phone calls from the guys who liked us and we would talk for hours into the night. But guys don’t call anymore. Calling seems to be restricted to when he’s actually serious about you. So if He’s just not that into you it’s come down to texting, facebooking, e-mailing, or some other form of technological communication. It seems that “You have to go through all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies”.

In today’s dating jungle I meet men that won’t even tell me their last names. This one guy said to me: “For you baby its just John.” Well just John…you can just Eff off.  If you don’t have a last name, I don’t have the time.

Unlike some girls, my Irish bartenders don’t greet me with shouts of “You wear your heart on your sleeve”. My Irish bartender actually asked me the other night if we should go have a quickie in the bathroom. And we weren’t even dating. Needless to say since he didn’t get a freebee, I lost my right to free drinks. But guys nowadays seem to get away with it. Why? Because apparently if they won’t get into our pants today, they’ll get into someone else’s tomorrow.

What happened to the days when we knew everything about our dates, our friends, our boyfriends? We knew their whole life history, where they came from, and what they wanted to be when they grew up. We knew their parents, brothers, sisters, uncles and aunts. Hell sometimes we even met their grandparents.

Maybe the world has changed. Or maybe I just haven’t. Maybe dating in the city is different than dating in a little town. Maybe dating at 30 is bound to be more confusing and complicated than dating at 20. Whatever the case if true love hides behind every corner… I must be walking in circles!

8 Responses to “Today’s Dating Jungle”

  1. It ie even tougher on men. Women are confronted with so many choices thqt they often toss you back hoping for something better or don’t respond to you at all, even a polite turndown, they just ignore you. I feel your pain.

    John Wilder

  2. Thanks John. Its a tough one, but eventually I’ll learn to see the forest through the trees.

  3. Change bars!

    Dating is still as it was – I am sure. I haven’t started dating again yet but I am convinced the good decent guys are still out there. The ones who are well behaved and honest and ‘gentlemen’. Just go ‘up market’!!!

    And don’t give up. You’re doing great!

    • Love your attitude. Change bars huh?! LOL.
      Me and Irish bartender are OK now. No bad feelings on either side. But still no more free drinks!
      To be honest, I think I’m done with the going out scene for a while. I wasn’t too impressed with the guys I met. And truthfully, I think I’m not quite there yet. I guess I tried to give myself a push forward a bit too soon, when in reality I’m still a bit of an emotional wreck.

  4. Take it gently. Well done you for giving it a go though. How about joining some clubs. Photography – something you’re interested in – that way you can go out for a reason other than just wanting to meet people and at the same time improving a skill or finding a new hobby. It takes the pressure off.

  5. I’m happy that you’re open to dating again. I’m sure it must seem strange. If I were your age i would be testing the waters, too. As it stands now, I’m not sure I am at all interested. Sometimes I think it would be nice to go to dinner and a show and be escorted. Dealing with the complications of an actual relationship sorta leaves me cold right now. Maybe I’ll change my mind. But I’m not holding my breath.

  6. I think expectations have gone down. We don’t expect much, so the goods don’t get delivered. The solution is to set your expectations and boundaries and communicate when they’ve been crossed. Then the dude (or dudette) has the choice to either step up or step off. Give people a chance, but don’t let them cross your boundaries. I also 2nd the join a club theory. Have you tried meetup? This way you can meet people while enjoying an activity you enjoy doing in and of itself. Whether it be running, playing cards, dancing, cooking, etc. I think a great one is volunteering together.


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